Editorial Note: I wrote this about a month ago before Franny was born.
I wish I had some grand piece of advice for you. Some single guiding principle that will carry you through thick and thin. Life doesn’t really work that way.
It’s hard and easy. There are people you will like and people you will despise. You will find that every situation is different. You mom’s and my love story will be different than your own. Just like ours was from your grandparents.
Speaking of your grandparents. They will love you more than you will ever know. It will be annoying at times, but when you look back you will have cherished every moment you spent with them.
The families you come from are vastly different, but still very similar. Nielsons and Millars will do everything in their power to help someone in need. This may seem like a simple thing at first, but the more you experience the rest of the world, you will realize that’s not always the case. Where we differ are things like religion and sports obsessions. Though, obviously you will be a San Francisco Giants, Utah Utes and Utah Jazz fan. In the end, you will be a blend of both families and you will wear it on your sleeve just like your mom and I do now.
You will learn that your mom and I compliment each other in ways that is not necessarily common. Where she is decisive, I am nuanced. Where I am forgetful, she is quick to remember. We spent the majority of our lives looking for each other and it’s been amazing building a life together. I don’t think either one of us has ever been so happy.
With that in mind, you will still have so much choice in how you achieve your own happiness. Religion, sexual, dietary, and career choices will be all your own to choose. Who you decide to spend the rest of your life with is completely up to you… as long as you choose after you’re 35.
Really, we can only hope to educate you enough so you make informed decisions that we are proud of today, and you will be proud of tomorrow. In the end, we know you will make mistakes, and that’s ok. Maybe I really do have a piece of grand advice.
We may yell. We may cry. We may call you a little shit. But no matter what happens, your mom and I will always love you. We will always be here for you.